Why High-Performers Struggle to Just Relax
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High-performers are often praised for pushing through stress… until the body finally stops cooperating.
The anxiety at 3am.
The racing thoughts.
The overwhelm that shows up even when life “looks fine” on paper.
This week’s newsletter is a reminder that sometimes the answer isn’t more discipline or more mindset work.
Sometimes your nervous system simply needs support.
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Tapping for Perimenopause: How to Stop Anxious Thoughts, Break Self-Sabotage, and Rewire Your Nervous System
with Jessica Ortner + Dr. Mindy Pelz
In this conversation, Jessica Ortner explains why perimenopause and chronic stress can create a perfect storm of nervous system dysregulation — and how EFT tapping can help interrupt that stress cycle in minutes.
Why This Matters
Your body can feel unsafe even when your logical mind knows you’re okay
Perimenopause often amplifies anxiety, overthinking, and emotional overwhelm
Tapping combines acupressure + psychology to help regulate the nervous system
The goal is not “positive thinking” — it’s helping the body feel safe again
Small nervous system practices repeated consistently build emotional resilience over time
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9 Tapping Techniquesby The Tapping Solution
EFT Tapping (or Emotional Freedom Techniques) draws on the principles of both traditional Chinese medicine and modern psychology.
While tapping on the acupressure points, you also maintain your mental focus on whatever is causing you distress (such as a strong emotion, worry, unresolved problem, or physical symptom).
The Science and explanation of how this technique can improve your performance, reduce your stress and calm your mind.
Tapping for Perimenopause: How to StopAnxious Thoughts, Break Self-Sabotage, and Rewire Your Mind
The racing mind wakes you up at 3am. The spiraling thoughts won't stop. You know logically that everything is fine, but your body won't believe it. And the more you try to think your way out of it, the worse it gets.
One Small Shift This Week
Before reacting, spiraling, or overthinking this week:
Pause for 60 seconds.
Place one hand on your chest.
Take a slow breath.
Gently tap your collarbone or side of hand.
Then ask yourself:
“What would help my body feel safe right now?”
Small moments of regulation repeated consistently create resilience.Small signals repeated consistently create powerful long-term outcomes.
Reflection Prompt
Where in your life are you trying to force clarity when your nervous system may actually need safety first?
Quote
“Healing begins when the body no longer feels under attack.”
—unknown